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Friends, Enemies and Frenemies; Dealing with the other relationships in your life

I think that this comes into play in almost every relationship. Of course we all have our best friends and other friends that are maybe just acquaintances or people that we’re close to but wouldn’t consider them our best friend. Then we have our boyfriend. One of the major battles in life is how to balance all the different relationships we have and make sure we maintain them all sufficiently.

Then there’s the issue that I’m sure we’ve all run into in relationships and that is how to deal when you don’t get along with or like your boyfriend’s friends. I’ll address some strategies for both of these scenarios below!

Maintaining Friendships while in a Romantic Relationship

I’m sure we’ve all had that friend who totally drop off the face of the earth the second they get a boyfriend. That’s super annoying right? But then again we also all know what it’s like when you’re in a relationship and you want to spend all your time with that person. So I guess we’re super annoying too..

Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there - fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I’ve got a sneaking suspicion… love actually is all around.

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—	Love Actually

I hate the way you talk to me, and the way you cut your hair. I hate the way you drive my car. I hate it when you stare. I hate your big dumb combat boots, and the way you read my mind. I hate you so much it makes me sick; it even makes me rhyme. I hate it, I hate the way you’re always right. I hate it when you lie. I hate it when you make me laugh, even worse when you make me cry. I hate it when you’re not around, and the fact that you didn’t call. But mostly I hate the way I don’t hate you. Not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all.

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—	10 Things I Hate About You

One of my all time favorite RomComs and the greatest movie to watch around the holidays. Now I’m not big on Christmas movies or Christmas in general since I’m don’t follow any Christian religion but this is my major exception.

Favorite Part:

[on sheets of poster board]
With any luck, by next year I’ll be going out with one of these girls [pictures of models] but for now let me say, without hope or agenda, just because it’s Christmas (and at Christmas you tell the truth) to me, you are perfect and my wasted heart will love you until you look like this [picture of a mummy]. Merry Christmas.

[Flash 9 is required to listen to audio.]

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The Sexiest Man Alive

For many years it’s been widely discussed how women are objectified in the media. Advertisements, movies, television shows and music videos are all places where you can find examples of objectification. Dismembered body parts being used to model certain products, sexualized copy accompanying photos and the positions/relationships between men and women are all ways in which the stereotypical female image is perpetuated throughout the media. In films like Jean Kilbourne’s “Killing Us Softly” the ways in which women are objectified are outlined and shown in a very smart and effective way. Kilbourne also discusses the recent phenomenon of male objectification in the media. She specifies that this is not the type of equality she’s after. While this objectification of men is just as harmful as the objectification of women they are definitely both being done to certain degrees. The sexiest man alive is probably the most popular way in which women “rank” men according to extraneous traits (most of which physical hence the word sexy) and decide who’s who in the world of looks and attraction. Feel free to watch Kilbourne’s video and check out People.com for the ways in which these men are being demeaned to a mere 6-sentence bio of why they’re so sexy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pjt77lBNjwM